Finding Out
It was Wednesday, June 13th, 2012, and I had been
feeling a pulling sensation in my lower abdomen for about 3 or 4 days at this
point. I had been disappointed for many
months, and didn’t allow myself to believe it was anything, until I felt on my
way home from work that I HAD to be pregnant.
Troy had chosen to take a late lunch that day, at home. This NEVER happened, and so I was so excited
he was there.
We had tuna casserole, and after eating, I started to feel
nauseous. I didn’t want to tell Troy my
suspicions (as I wanted to surprise him if I was), and so I snuck off to the
bathroom to take a pregnancy test. It
was a BLARING positive. I was so
excited, but had planned for years how I would tell my husband, and so I needed
to get him out of the house so that I could keep it a secret until he got
home. I tried gently encouraging him to
go back to work. He said he would in 10
minutes.
No more than five minutes passed between me finding out and
the morning sickness setting in. I
suddenly had to throw up. I told him I
didn’t feel so good and ran to the bathroom.
He came in after me to make sure I was okay, but sure enough, I wasn’t. Between wretches, he was asking me if
everything was okay. I couldn’t keep it
in anymore. I told him to look in my
medicine cabinet, and I asked him what he saw.
He told me, “A pregnancy test?” I
responded, “A POSITIVE pregnancy test?”
He suddenly embraced my line from the proposal. “Are you serious?!” He couldn’t believe it, and of course we teared up,
hugged and avoided kissing, since I had just done the unthinkable. He still is making fun of my inability to
keep a secret for 10 minutes, and that he found out because I was getting
sick. He couldn’t believe it and told me
I needed to take another test. I took a
different brand immediately, as I had a variety from trying to conceive for a
long while. Of course, it was positive,
and THEN he kind of actually believed me.
Announcing the Pregnancy
It was a lot of fun announcing the pregnancy to friends and
family, but there were a couple of reactions that were by far my favorite. Since we found out a few days before Father’s
Day (wouldn’t that have been awesome for Troy if I could have kept a secret??),
Troy wanted to wait until then to announce it to his family. This KILLED me, and so he told me I could
tell my family sooner. It relieved a lot
of pressure to get that off my chest to at least my parents. I’m pretty sure they knew immediately when I
asked my mom to put my dad on speakerphone.
Actually the fact that I called at all may have tipped them off. Ha. It
was so fun, and they were excited for us.
We called Troy’s dad on Skype, and almost all of Troy’s
siblings and step-siblings were there. I
told Doug there were two parts to his Father’s Day Gift. It turns out the t-shirt had already arrived,
so I told him the other part I would have to send a picture of. So I sent a picture of the positive pregnancy
test to his facebook, however it wouldn’t open on his phone. So I asked if he could open it on the
computer. I could see a look in everyone’s
eyes of “this better be good” as they were waiting to log in. When he got in and opened it, I was rambling
about something, when I heard Ashley go, “Are you serious!?” Then everyone
started clapping and cheering. It was a
pretty great moment.
I also really enjoyed telling Troy’s mom. We’ve been planning for her to come out when
we have the baby long before I was pregnant.
She also happened to be coming out here roughly a week from when we told
her. So we called her on the phone and I
said, “I’m so excited for when you come out here.” Of course she said something about it being
so soon, and so I said, “No, I mean in February, for the baby!” As soon as it hit her what we were saying she
was appropriately excited for us! J
Another fun announcement moment was telling my friend/neighbor. Jewelene had been a huge help to me while we
were trying to conceive, and had seen me at my worst. I know she had been praying for us for months
to be able to get pregnant. I came
upstairs to see her, and she was having a hard day. I came in and asked her how she was, and she
just had said, “Not good, but I don’t want to talk about it.” I didn’t press it, but just said, “Well… I’m
pregnant.” She dropped whatever was in
her hands and just INSTANTLY started bawling.
She just hugged me and we cried together for a while. She told me that I
just made her whole day better, and we hugged and cried some more. It was definitely a favorite moment of this
pregnancy so far.
I’ll also remember telling my boss forever. She had been there for me quite a bit through
the doctor’s appointments and whatnot.
She actually had taken me to the hospital for my HSG when Troy was out
of town. So I was excited to tell
her. She came into work, and I said, “Umm…
Lynn?” with a grimace on my face like, ‘You are going to be so mad.’ And she very slowly and hesitantly said, “What?” I said, “I need to give you my 8 months’
notice.” She asked, “Are you pregnant!?” When I confirmed she instantly hugged me and
we both cried. It was very sweet.
Troy and I had agreed not to say anything until we were 12
weeks along, as the danger of miscarriage is mostly passed at that point. But as we’ve learned, I can’t keep
secrets. I ended up being extremely sick
in my first trimester, which is a strong indicator of a lasting, viable
pregnancy. I figured after I had to go
to the birthing center and get IV fluids for 4 hours one day, that it would be
okay to announce it. Whoops! But everyone was very supportive and excited!
